Can you recognize emotional manipulation when you sense it?

So many teenagers and youths today are involved in one relationship or the other. At the beginning, it is something that one wants to last but on the long run, it gets messy for some people. For  some people, going into a relationship isn't a big deal and that's why they have numbers of partners that they feed fat with lies, and to some it's something really serious that has to be treated with caution.

It's crazy how a person is professing love to you this minute and the next minute, you discover he/she is the worst thing to ever happen to you. People say people change, but sometimes we have to believe that people show their true colours. A leopard can't hide it's spots, no matter how much it tries. An intentionally shitty person would always be shitty irrespective of how much love a person brings to their doorstep. 

There are various things people do in relationships that lead to one party hurting and breaking up or converting the relationship into a situationship. It is really crazy how people decide to be with somebody and ignore serious red flags because of aesthetics or things that shouldn't really matter. One of the many reasons relationships fail these days and why we have so many emotionally damaged people is because of emotional manipulation.

An emotionally manipulative person is one who is able to mould situations into whatever shape they want at the expense of the other person they claim to genuinely love. You can't love somebody and be selfish. A part of you should want to get things done in order to make the other person happy. This kind of person would do anything to make sure the narrative favours him/her. 

You wouldn't realize you're with an emotional manipulator until you cut ties and fresh air blows over your head and you're able to think properly. Those times he/she made you believe they couldn't reciprocate your efforts simply because they weren't raised with love. They talk more than they do;their actions NEVER match their words. They always say things they would never do, putting your hopes high and dashing them into the mud of avoidable disappointment.

They're very mean with their comments and decisions when it concerns the relationship. They throw disrespect at you like a throw pillow and when you kind of figure what's going on, they play the victims card and try to win you over. They always make you feel guilty and embarrassed. They always use what you tell them in confidence against you. 

They also make you believe that they're in some need of therapy that can only be delivered through your love and "patience". Well, that's one of an emotional manipulator's strategies. People need to be aware that they're not rehabilitation homes and shouldn't see it as their duty to fix broken and shitty people. Whosoever doesn't want to let go of their past can hold on to them ALONE.

 Those moments you think you're talking to a person that's supposed to see reasons with you on a particular issue, understand and make amends, but they make it all about their selves and you're left with nothing but apologies and reassurance about something that isn't even genuine. The painful part about realizing you were manipulated emotionally is when you realize that you can't do anything about it anymore because it's a past event, and you ask yourself repeatedly why you weren't smart enough to spot those deceit. If you're in this situation, you need to forgive yourself and have it in mind that you weren't deceived, rather they deceived themselves.

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