I'm back guysss....
Hi guys, it's been a whole long time since I last posted here. I'm very sorry, but it was kind of beyond my control.
I'm a student and attending school post-pandemic is the real ghetto. Just imagine a whole semester's work crammed up into a month and you have to write exams the following month. You don't even have to imagine it, many of us lived it. I'm glad we are all alive to even read this blog post, lol.
That was like one of the most challenging situations of my life.
I've never been so overwhelmed by work before. Attending physical classes, tending to online classes, carrying out ridiculous assignments, all with a limited time almost took the last drop of blood from me.
I fell ill at some point, but I sorted myself out in time.
Imagine going about school work with very serious body aches; where your body feels like it was subjected to torture under a fallen container truck. This is just a mild description of how I felt at that point.
You know, you don't know how far you can stretch till you're forced to stretch.
Well, I fit into the unhealthy but unavoidable schedule, and it wasn't bad after all. Exams weren't bad, so it's safe to say everything went well, regardless.
While I was away, I got several topics to blog about in my head. Getting myself to construct the blog posts was so difficult. I mean, I was so busy I couldn't even check on the progress of the blog. I couldn't do any other thing than research for my courses, read up recommended texts, attend classes, and basically read-read-read.
There's one thing I've noticed about a lot of people; their inability to argue without throwing in a pinch of insult. I guess it feels like salt in food to them; without it the argument is tasteless.
Eight out of ten people have this problem. I call it a problem because it is a huge red flag in friendship or just normal coexistence for me.
It is common knowledge that you cannot share the same views with everyone, therefore, you should be willing to agree to disagree with anyone in any discussion without throwing insults in.
Anytime this happens to me, I just feel like the topic of argument and the person I'm arguing with aren't worth it and I immediately get out of the conversation. I check out of that physical connection so fast that the person before me is left speechless. I mean, some of us do not like being insulted because we are arguing about something as controversial as the fact that cheating shouldn't be a normal phenomenon in any relationship.
Everyone should have their own view without being thought of or seen as a fool.
It is indeed a red flag in friendship and communal coexistence if we are having an argument and you're trying to make your point by throwing in insults.
We come from various corners of the earth, we have different psychological histories, we have different childhood experiences, we were brought up differently in different environments. So many of us have very different mental orientation from other people. Besides, no two persons have the same thinking faculty. Even identical twins think differently.
What I'm trying to say in essence is that everyone should understand that it is perfectly okay to have a different opinion from others. Not everyone can agree with you on whatever your standpoint is; you may be right or wrong, but you should learn to open your heart to new opinions.
We are humans and it is only normal for us to make mistakes; it's normal to have errors in reasoning. I mean, we are sociological beings, we learn everyday from our environment and people around.
Throwing in insults: direct or indirect, during a seemingly civil argument is uncalled for and very unnecessary. You are an adult and you shouldn't be caught doing this. This is the 21st century, and we all need to unlearn some bad manners we picked up from childhood. This is one of them, and it irks me.
I can't have myself argue with people who do not know how to accept differing opinions with calmness. I know you are not an island of knowledge, neither am I, so why do you try to act like you know everything?
You don't need this. Open your heart and mind and learn new things. I promise you, it's a whole beautiful view on this end. Yes, you can have a different view from mine and not insult me one bit. What you should be doing is educate me about why your point of view is correct and make sure I see reasons with you.
If the person you're arguing with is adamant, then it's okay. You can't force your opinion on them.
Thanks for reading this blog post. I mean, you stuck with me till this time and I'm grateful for this.
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And yea, a little birdie asked me to tell you guys that I have something in the works.
Happy Easter celebration guys.
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ReplyDeleteIt is very annoying actually because for me, I think that is their only strong hold, like they know that the points they are presenting isn't strong enough so they add insult.
ReplyDeleteOne to piss you off and make you go off track in what you're saying... Anywho, Happy Easter WinnerB
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DeleteYou have spoken well my daughter.
ReplyDeleteWelcome back 😁
Thank you daddy
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